When I read an article about recognizing a problem with alcohol, somebody instantly came to mind. Most of the behavior and actions made by an alcoholic is really with that person.  It made me think why can’t somebody control that?  Why do some people does not easily overcome such compulsion when they knew that they are starting to depend on it?

Then I remember an acquaintance that became drug dependent.  The addiction started when she could not control anymore her husband’s addiction, and she solved it by taking a crack at it.  And why not, if her husband can do it, why can’t she?  Hence, it made her an addict too.  Being in that circumstance, she lost her job, her self-esteem, and she cracked.  So her family made the effort of putting her in a drug rehabilitation center located in Malibu.

When I visited her, I can see that the drug treatment center made so much wonder to her well-being.  She was so much nicer, her aura so serene and all those perplexity I saw once in her eyes were gone.  She was so much better.

Just the other day, I got the chance to talk to her and I can see she fared really well, and she finally decided to do the most rational thing – file a divorce and end her misery.  She now understands that you can’t force a person to change, nor make an effort to make the change, unless the person wanted to.  That the noblest thing she can do is move on not for herself, but for the sake of her children.